Cross on Beach

Professional Christian counselors like myself are licensed and regulated by the State in which we practice.  A counselor can be Christian without identifying themselves as one, however some counselors prefer to be open about our religious affiliation.  The reason for identifying myself this way is because my worldview is largely defined by my religious beliefs.

Your worldview is your perspective on how you view the world.  Everyone has a worldview regardless of your religious affiliation.  It is defined by your family, experiences, and beliefs.  Mine just happens to be based on traditional Christian values.

This does not mean that I only counsel Christians, far from it.  It just means that you will not have to guess about what I believe or where my ideas originate from.  What you choose to believe is a decision you must make for yourself.  There is no judgement in my counseling room as I am not your judge in any way, shape, or form.  Rather, my objective is to come alongside of you, see how you got to where you are, and help you to get to a place of healing.

The articles posted in this section are decidedly Christian in nature and designed specifically for anyone who is interested in deepening their relationship with Jesus Christ.  If there is a topic that you would like to hear more about, please leave a comment below and I’ll be happy to respond.

5 thoughts on “Christianity

  1. Just finished reading your article “How Narcissists Use Money To Abuse.” Thank you; I really needed the validation.

    As a Catholic, I don’t know where to begin to be able to forgive my abusive father who holds my inheritance, money my mother left me when she died, giving me just enough to live on each month ($1100) that leaves me in exigent poverty. Oh, there was plenty of money there, too.

    Usually he sends his check by the first of the month. Last month, by the 3rd, still no check. Finally I had to call him which was like poison for me. “Oh, I’ve just been too busy” he said. I told him I had to write a check for my automobile insurance that was trying to clear my bank. So he wanted to know what bank I use and their phone number, then he wanted the name of my insurance company. He’s 86 and will never change. This is the same father who would beat me until I passed out; I was no more than two and a half years old when the beatings started. I remember them vividly. He’d hold me by one arm like I was a piñata and club at me with his other arm until I finally passed out. My mother would stand there screaming, “Stop, Charlie, stop, stop! You’re going to kill her.” And that, I am sure, is exactly what he wanted to do.

    I am soon to turn 60 and have struggled with depression, trauma, anxiety, substance abuse, suicidal tendencies, codependency, and other symptoms that typically affect victims of narcissistic abuse. As a child I had no one to turn to except Jesus Christ, but even now, when I ask Him if He is aware of what my cross looks like and plead with him for financial relief so that I may disconnect from the abuses of my father and sister, my prayers are in vain. I have sold off so many of my belongings, some of which hurt terribly to part with, but it is my understanding that to follow Jesus, this is what is expected of us. I am in financial foot shackles and have learned that a B.A. nowadays is the equivalent of a high school diploma.

    My spirit is crushed into the ground. All the things I once loved, decorating, piano, my artwork, cooking, sewing, gardening, all of it, I have no interest in any longer. Does God really want for me to have to sell my home in order to have the financial relief and stability I pray for? Where will I go? What does He want me to do? What is His will for me? Not my will but Thy will be done. Dear God, I have so much to give to the world; please, give me a chance and the soil I need in which to thrive.

    There are so many things I could be doing with my creativity to earn a living. It seems my efforts are futile. I think of Jesus, and throughout His short life, the adversity He faced but then again, I remind Him: You, Dear Lord, had a loving mother and father in Mary and Joseph: I did not! Lord, have mercy.

  2. Christine,

    I just read your article about how the Ex-Narcissist spouse retaliates through children.

    It felt as though I was reading about my life!! Finally, some validation. Thank you.

    FYI, one child (now 46) has stayed close to me, even thought it was a struggle because of his father. The other (now 48) hasn’t communicated with me since 1999, bearing out her father’s threat… “You might have them now but I’ll teach them to hate you.” I feel blessed to have my son but heartbroken about my daughter.

    Thank you, again.

  3. Greetings! Very helpful advice in this particular post! It’s the little changes which will make the most important changes. Thanks a lot for sharing!

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