Yes, no and maybe. Remember the Hulk? A normal looking man who turn into a green monster in a matter of seconds. As a man he seems kind, understanding, logical, sympathetic, and systematic but given the right opportunity, he becomes unreasonable, angry, aggressive, spontaneous, and violent. In a very simplistic way, this illustration clearly describes what happens to a violent shooter. Yes, there are personality profiles, addictions, disorders, environments, and relationships that all contribute to the likelihood that a person will become a shooter but the bottom line is there is still a willingness to become the monster that lurks deep inside.
Who does this happen to? Be honest for a second and recall your last monster like appearance. Were you ranting and raving about something meaningless, were you throwing something across the room, were you crying uncontrollably, or were you wishing harm on someone? If you can honestly assess your own monster like tendencies than you have the ability to discern your child’s monster like tendencies. Everyone has this, it is just a matter of degree and triggers.
How does this happen? It is like the flick of a switch. One moment everything seems fine and then the switch is flicked and things are out of control. Behind the switch however is a trigger that provoked you or your child into becoming the monster. So the key is to know your own switches first and then you can more clearly see your child’s. After all, some of your switches are likely to be the same or at least similar areas of frustration.
Why does this happen? Well, within all of us lies an evil nature that if properly provoked could result in behavior uncharacteristic of you or your child. Yes, it is hard to believe that your sweet innocent child might have some evil lurking inside but there is only person to be born without an evil nature and subsequently die without committing a sin and it is not your child. Accepting the reality is far better than living in a fairytale land and pretending that your child is incapable of any harm.
What can I do to stop it? Once you have accepted the possibility that your child could cause harm to others and learned their triggers, then you are in an excellent place to discern what type of care or treatment is needed. If your child has numerous violent video games, talks about killing people, is easily angered into rage, has a history of causing harm to animals, or shows great disregard for authority, then your child needs immediate help from a trained professional. If the reaction is less severe, then modeling proper behavior is the best place to start. Your child will learn far more from how you act rather than what you say.
So yes, everyone is capable of evil. No, this does not mean that your child will become a shooter. But maybe, through good modeling in keeping your parent monster in check, you can teach your child to keep their monster from coming out and harming others.
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