DISC Personality Profile: Putting It All Together

You have completed the tests and have a better understanding of yourself through the DISC personality profile having gained new insights as to your strengths and weaknesses. But how does your profile fit with others?  How does it relate to your spouse’s profile, your co-worker’s profile or your child’s?  How can the pieces fit together to form a functioning group dynamic?

Each personality profile in DISC: dominating, influential, steadfast, and conscientious, are different pieces of a whole package.  The goal is not to become all things rather it is to recognize the value in each part, utilize your strengths to achieve results, and supplement your weaknesses by working with people who are strong where you are weak.  When you do this you will discover how much more enjoyable life can be, how much less anxiety you will have, and a huge reduction in everyday stress as you will no longer be trying to be something that you are not.  Setting boundaries in your life based on your strengths will now become easier and you will no longer be as tempted to take on tasks that are outside your strengths.

Positive attitude.  If you are a dominating or influential person then seeing the glass as half full will come more naturally.  Having fun and getting things done now are all about the positive possibilities in the moment and what can happen in the future.  This of course does not mean that a person in either of these profiles will not be negative on occasion because when a dominating or influential person is stressed, they tend to become almost aggressively negative and angry.  However it does mean that their natural tendency is to have a positive attitude.

Negative attitude.  If you are a steadfast or conscientious person then seeing the glass as half empty will come more naturally.  This is because no one else in the room cares to do things as right as you do or cares as much about keeping the peace.  Both of these tendencies are isolating in nature as more people just want to get things over and done with instead of being careful and more people stir up conflict then try to keep the peace.  Of course you can train your brain to think more positively however, this will not come naturally and will require more effort on your part then for a dominating or influential person.

Task-oriented.  Both a dominating and conscientious persons are task oriented as opposed to people oriented.  For them, people are a means to an end or a necessary evil to accomplish a goal.  A person in either of these groups will usually prefer to get the job done alone as other people tend to muddy the waters and require too much precious energy that is better served accomplishing the task at hand.  However lacking their people skills might naturally be, they can learn to incorporate others into the task at hand to help elevate some stress.

People-oriented.  Both an influential and steadfast persons are people oriented as opposed to task oriented.  For them the whole purpose of work is to do it together and their relationships at work are more important than their tasks.  If a person is struggling with a personal problem, they will forgo a deadline in order to help the other person out because the relationship matter more than the work.  However difficult it may be to keep an influential or steadfast person on track, they can learn to see completing tasks as a way to preserve relationships which will matter far more than a deadline.

By looking at how all of the pieces fit together you can begin to see the value in each group.  For instance, if your spouse is relational and you are task oriented, then they should be in charge of setting the social calendar with limitations on the frequency of outings.  Or if your co-worker is constantly seeing how things are falling apart, then having them work together with a person who looks on the brighter side of work is a healthy balance.   Opposites attract and complement each other making all the pieces work together is a cohesive manner.

Repairing, restoring, and rebuilding relationships takes time, energy and effort.  If you find yourself needing more help during this process, please call our offices at 407-647-7005 to schedule an appointment.  Or you can send me a quick email at chammond@lifeworksgroup.org.

Personalities: Do You Know Someone Who Lives for Perfectionism?

Perfect Pete comes home after analyzing the best route to get there the fastest during rush hour traffic.  He is disappointed that no one notices he saved two minutes by taking a new route and can’t believe the lack of attention to detail by his family.  After all, there is the right way to come home which takes the least amount of time and then there are the several wrong ways to come home which take more time.  And he has found the best.  “Why can’t they appreciate the difference between the right way and the wrong way?” he mutters, “Life would be so much easier if everyone did everything the right way.”  Not only does he have to work with people who don’t care about quality, but now he has to live with them as well.  It is enough to send him in a sour mood as once again he is alone in his rightness.  He spends the rest of the evening barely talking to his family because not only did they not realize he was home early, when he finally told them about it they were totally unimpressed and even made fun of him.

Sound familiar?  If so, then your someone is a “C” in the DISC personality profile which is “Conscientious”.  Their motto in life is to “Get it done right”, for them quality not only matters but it is the most important element.  There will be no shortcuts with this personality as they take a long time to make a decision because they analyze every last detail from every angle they can find.  For them, they want to be known as a person who is cautious, calculated, detail-oriented, and thorough.   But all of this perfectionism comes at a cost as they default to moody, arrogant and self-righteous behaviors.  As a profession, they make excellent attorneys, artists, doctors, engineers, accountants and pilots.  Basically any profession which demands accuracy is a natural fit for their personality.

As a Spouse.  Having a spouse with this personality can be frustrating as they are not likely to accept your opinion of what is right and what is wrong with a long and drawn out fight.  The only way to win an argument with this personality is to dig your heals in the sand and don’t give ground.  This group sees giving ground as a weakness in your thinking.  On the positive side, they should be managing all of your finances as they make excellent, however frustrating, financial planners.  If the decision does not need to be made right away, let them research it as you know they will find the best possible choice and you will not be disappointed with the results.

As a Friend.  Be prepared to be confronted in a not so nice manner with a laundry list of all of your flaws.  The good news is that they don’t sugar coat anything so you can count on them to be as straight as an arrow with you and usually sarcastic to boot.  While they will spend time splitting pennies over a halved dinner check, they will not be the one to pick up the phone and call you to go somewhere.  If they are your friend, you will have to be the social director but the good news is that if they don’t want to do something, they will let you know.  The bad news is that they will never let you forget a bad time or a mistake.

As a Co-Worker.  Be on guard because they will intentionally lose you in the details in an effort to out-smart, out-think and out-analyze you.  They are not doing this because they are competitive; rather they are doing this because they are convinced that they are right and want to make sure that you know it and appreciate it.  If they have designed a process, then rest assured that it is good but if you have designed a process, then they will find the flaw and point it out at nauseam.  Don’t give this personality a deadline as they are sure to change it because, well let’s just say they have a ton of “because’s” and they are usually right.  However, if the project requires a level of perfectionism, give it to them and it will be perfect.

As a Child.  It starts early with demanding that everyone play by their own rules even if the rules are not the real rules but the ones the child made up.  You see, this child knows how to write better rules than the maker of the game so make sure you know “their rules” and are playing by them or they will throw a fit.  It is usually their way or the highway and while they don’t have fully developed analytical skills yet, they can be pretty convincing as to why you should do things their way.  Don’t give in, just listen and praise them for the suggestion, but do not argue.  This is a pointless venture which will only alienate you from your child in the future.

This personality knows all of the “whys” to nearly every question because they have already asked, researched, and analyzed the answers.  Their attention to detail makes them quite gifted, excellent musicians, careful surgeons, and fiscally responsible adults.  So if you come across a Perfect Pete don’t run away, instead let them manage a detailed project following all of their suggestions and everything will be just fine.

Repairing, restoring, and rebuilding relationships takes time, energy and effort.  If you find yourself needing more help during this process, please call our offices at 407-647-7005 to schedule an appointment.  Or you can send me a quick email at chammond@lifeworksgroup.org.